22 Jun Maturing Through Pain
The mature person pays attention to what is happening in the innermost self. ~ Tzu-Ssu
In my work with people…it seems that everything is based on emotional gratification that so many human beings strive for with all of their energies in this world. If they are getting the proper amount of emotional satisfaction, then all is well in their life. Most people believe that they are living right when they are emotionally fulfilled! They believe that they have found the place of true happiness when everything in their world is going well. They think they have the tiger by the tail, which usually has to do with an easy lifestyle and comfort of living that appears to be in control as a matter of daily routine.
On the other hand, people typically believe that they are unhappy if, through their emotions, they are receiving signals of some sort of emotional depravation in their current living or believe that there is some sort of restriction coming their way. To them, this means something is wrong and they must batten down the hatches and ready themselves for an emotional storm or loss of some sort. And add to the mix here that for many people, emotional gratification can also include some sort of negative experience that fulfills their belief that they are just losers in this world. This is all so convoluted!
So with all of this said, I want to talk with you about the presence of PAIN in our lives and what it could mean to actually mature through pain. Most people truly believe that pain is a sign that something is wrong because their emotional gratifications are being threatened. These petty emotions and passionate fears are how our society has grown so very immature. Learning how to live with and through any kind of pain changes us, it can even transform us.
I had a Zen master tell me once that there were two types of pain. The first was the one that seemed to hurt forever and the second was the pain of transformation that opened up many a new door to living. Pain is nothing more than fingers pointing to the moon. The object of pain is to look where it is pointing and not bite the finger, which is only there to help us recognize where we are and where we are going. Learning how to live with pain in order to become clear and present in our awareness is a very intelligent way to process living. Reacting emotionally to any kind of pain and assigning some sort of moral assessment to it as being fair or right only prolongs the pain and makes us believe that we have been persecuted for no just cause. This is NOT the way Life works at all.
So the question is how does one become aware through pain? How should we learn to live with pain, as pain itself? The effort is to HEAR THE MESSAGE of pain…not from a moral or emotional premise, but from a place where we can realize that following our emotions makes for very painful events in both the outer and, more importantly, the inner most part of ourselves. Learning how to devote our attentions to what is happening in the innermost self is the art of an authentic spiritual practice. Then simply not doing what we have been doing to ourselves no matter how pervasive and persuasive our emotions may seem to be. This can only work if a person truly recognizes what is happening, from within, and is determined to have a metamorphosis into Love.
To mature does not require religion, philosophy or any kind of social politics. We mature when we come to the place of futility through living in the crudeness of our cruelty and recognizing how it boomerangs back at us over and over again. Once this is understood, we simply disengage from attachment to anything in the form of flesh, thought and emotion.
If you wish to mature through pain, you can. Just self-realize through remorse…which means that you no longer live as an act of selfishness, pride and judgment. Remorse means: I RECOGNIZE THE FUTILITY OF IT ALL BY CONTINUING TO INDULGE IN ENERGIES THAT DO NOT ALLOW FOR AUTHENTIC LOVE. It is that simple.
Follow the call to to the INTRINSIC. Don’t be fooled by the matter of circumstance or opinion. Walk into the water…move into the Ocean of the INTRINSIC and come home. Here pain only helps you mature into the ability to recognize the Love that you are.
Do not condemn the pain that comes to you - listen to it and allow it to show you what is important and what is NOT important
Listen to the voice of pain - seek to hear its language through patience and compassion
Some pain comes into our lives to show us that NOTHING IS AS IT SEEMS - be wise and allow this pain to be your teacher in order to awaken to the Life that is Love living within you